Heart VS Mind 

It's been a while since I've been inspired to put pen to paper. But recent observations have shown me that people love differently. Everyone has their own way of loving, of showing love, and of receiving love. 

If it boils down to two generalized categories, it would be called Heart Vs Mind. Or, in more understandable terms, Feelings Vs Logical thinking. More often than not, women listen to their heart a lot more than men. They are sensitive to feelings, to the small things, to the intangibles. Whereas men are often guided by logic. It has to make sense. It has to be tangible. 

So where do we draw the line? How do you love? What is the right way to love? If you follow your heart and nothing else, justifying all your actions based simply on how you feel, too much of it and you can be deemed as crazy. If you willfully follow only logical thinking, without care or regard in the matters of the heart, you will be considered insensitive, a blockhead. 

So the big question - How do we balance out? When should we choose to listen to our heart? When should we choose to use logical thinking instead? The answer? I don't know. But here's what I do know. A relationship is a work in progress. You don't change how a person is receptive to love. Everyone receives love differently. You change how you give love. 

For the guy, instead of rationalizing with her and enforcing your definition of logic on her, listen to her heart instead. Give her a hug, tell her I love you, it's okay, I'm sorry. Let us make things better. 

For the girl, instead of expecting him to understand how you feel all the time, try putting yourself in his shoes. See things from his perspective, understand where he's coming from, hug him and say, okay. It's that simple. It's your heart that chooses who to love, But it's your mind that chooses to make it last.